My first two months as a mum
Baby A. is two months today! (And his “reward” was getting the BCG vaccine… poor child).
These two months have passed by quite slowly, or at least that’s how I feel. At first my days were a blur of nursing, holding a sleeping baby and checking my phone too much (because it’s the easiest thing to do when you have a sleeping baby on your lap; later I started reading on the Kindle and I am now in the middle of the Harry Potter saga, which I had never read). We didn’t go out much during the first month as we were a bit scared and also because whenever we tried, Baby A. would get furious inside his pram. I think it was because we chose a bad moment and he was hungry or something. Now he likes going out, sometimes he falls asleep with the motion and other times he is too busy looking at everything. I also have a wrap but I have only used it once, I want to use it more from now on.
Baby A.’s first big outing was when we was 24 days old and we had to go all the way to Shanghai to renew my passport and apply for his. We had to take the train and then the subway to the Spanish consulate. Taking the subway with the pram is a bit annoying because whoever designed the stations did definitely not take prams/strollers/wheelchairs into account. For example, in some stations the elevator is on the leftmost side of the platform and in others (in the same line) it’s on the rightmost side. That means you have to walk all the length of the platform as you enter from the left and have to exit from the right! And subway trains in Shanghai are loooooong, same as stations!
At the end of September my parents came to visit and stayed for two weeks. During their second week, my brother and his girlfriend also came and stayed for 6 days. We couldn’t do much sightseeing with the baby so we just went for walks in the neighbourhood and ate at many different restaurants. Baby A.’s favourite pastime was wanting to nurse at the exact same moment I was going to start eating! Now it is a bit better and I can eat more or less in peace most of the days.
My MIL has been staying here when C. is working so I am not alone. This has been extremely helpful as the baby often wakes up the moment I put him in his crib, so if my MIL wasn’t here I have no idea what I would eat (I would probably have to order delivery every day) and the apartment would be a mess. Also, I have no idea how I would deal with Nico, our dog. She has been in and out of the pet hospital these weeks and is now officially disabled as she cannot get up on her own and can barely walk. Her hip joints are all worn down and she is always in pain. She is now also extremely picky with food and only eats “people food”, when until two months ago she would wolf down her usual pet food. Oh, and she doesn’t give a crap about the baby. I think she hates us now.
We had two photo sessions, the newborn one when Baby A. was two weeks old and another when my family came. For the newborn one, the photographers came home and brought many props and clothes for the baby to wear. For the family session, the studio dressed us all in fancy “pre-liberation tv drama” clothes except my brother, whom they didn’t have the appropriate size so he looked more like James Bond.
We went to the hospital for the 42 days check-up both for me and the baby. At that time, the baby was 4.6 kg (31st percentile) and 58.4 cm (87th). I hope he stops growing this fast because he’s not going to fit in the pram soon and he still cannot sit up!! Of course the doctor said that he was quite skinny, even though he’s perfectly healthy. But Chinese people love fat babies (this morning in the vaccination clinic I saw some huge ones). I nurse on demand and the baby is always happy, cries very little and pees and poos a suitable amount, so I am not worried on that front. I’m more worried about my mummy tummy and the fact that I haven’t lost any weight postpartum!! Not as worried as to do something serious about it, though. It took me 9 months to grow a huge belly (and bake a perfect baby) so maybe it will take me 9 months to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Let’s see! But I’m definitely not losing sleep over it.