From allowing just 1 child to forcing to have 3
Based on questions that I have been asked, it seems that some people still don’t know that the one child policy is not enforced in China anymore. To be precise, it was scrapped at the end of 2015, six years ago. After that the two children policy was adopted, and then this year the three child policy was approved. Will they fine people who have more than three children? I somehow doubt it, given the current state of affairs.
People always say (and it is indeed true) that in China, things change very fast. This topic is a good example: in only six years, China has gone from giving fines to people who have more than one child to trying to convince families to have more children. Forced abortions and sterilizations, and also easily obtained pregnancy terminations, have now given way to difficulties for men who want to get a vasectomy.
And how have Chinese people reacted to this calling to have more babies? With a big “screw you”, pardon my French. In this survey that was done in May and which around 30,000 people answered, 1443 said they were looking forward to having a third child; 213 replied they were noting it up in their agendas; 828 answered that they had some doubts and had to think about it; and 28,000 people replied with the Chinese equivalent of “no way Jose”.
Pow! Right in the kisser! When the two child policy was adopted, the government also thought there was going to be a big boom in births, but to their dismay there were only a few more births the following year (from people that had always wanted a second child and could still conceive) and then the birth rate kept falling. Now it is the lowest in 70 years (since there are records, I guess).
Why are Chinese people not interested in having more children? Most of them say that it’s because they simply cannot afford it. Apart from the usual costs of raising a child, Chinese parents spend thousands every year on extracurricular classes so their spawn has more chances to attend a good university, study a good major and earn a lot of money. “If everybody else does it, my child cannot be left behind”. Those families that send their children to private schools, with the intention of later having them attend university abroad, also pay through the nose in school fees. You may have heard that, last summer, the government banned all extracurricular classes for children (except art, sports and the like), but as the requirements to enter university and the limited amount of university spots have not changed, parents are still anxious about their children learning less than their peers and now are paying more money than before to teachers that have to teach in an unregulated way and basically in secret.

And let’s not even talk about the time you have to dedicate to your children, even more if you are very worried about their education and you feel like to have to micromanage them at all times. This is mostly a women’s job, of course, and many of them end up giving up their careers and losing financial indepence. So it’s not a surprise that many young women don’t even want to have one child, or reluctantly have one just to fulfill their societal obligations.

So what is the government doing to encourage people to have children, apart from banning extracurricular classes? Are they perhaps giving financial help to families? Ha, that’s a good one. None of that yet. Like always, they say they will protect women from being fired or having their salary reduced if they get pregnant. But if companies are not even willing to hire young women, what’s the use of that? There’s already been articles in which companies confess that they will have to think a lot before hiring a young woman. Will this end up like The Handmaid’s Tale, albeit a more domestic version in which female work outside the house is forbidden and they only have to provide babies to their husband?
For now, a few days ago the Chinese Communist Party published a very funny directive in which they exhort party members to be an example for the people and start having three children.
The highlighted part says: “Party members cannot, for this or that subjective reason, avoid getting married or avoid having children. They also cannot, for this or that subjective reason, have only one or two children”. Loud and clear. Apart from paying the party fees and attend meetings, now members will also have to show their “big family” cards, hehe. Unfortunately Xi Jinping and his wife are too old for that, but their 29 year old daughter should start doing her part (by the way, that same daughter studied in Harvard, and now parents that send their children to universities abroad are considered unpatriotic. Oh, the shock!). In this article that someone published on WeChat and that has been removed from that platform (someone posted it in that foreign website so it can still be accessed), the author warns that whoever thinks this is going to stop with party members should think twice, as the rest of the society will surely have to follow. Let’s see, maybe in another six years Chinese women will be forced to have three children, for the benefit of the whole society and of the motherland. Yep, it does sound suspiciously like The Handmaid’s Tale.
Very interesting post, Marta. Looking forward to your posts on babies B & C in the future. 😉
Merry Christmas to you, your family and loved ones! Let’s hope that 2022 is a kinder, gentler year!
Merry Christmas!!! And I honestly doubt there will be babies B and C xD
Hmmm this is insightful! As I was reading this I wondered how hard it must be for people who wanted more children but were banned, and now can’t do so because of age and yet it is permitted. It’s sad to see that such limitations imposed on people’s lives. I have one kid and it’s so hard to keep her entertained…
YES. I spend all my time outside of work playing legos, playdough and little kitchen. It’s strange because I don’t remember my parents ever playing with my toys. How did they manage to get us to play alone? My son will hear none of it hahaha.
Interesting…and horrible. It’s the same all over the world–those with a uterus are penalized if they don’t use it exactly how men in power think they should. Alas for bodily autonomy.
Yes, “strangely” it’s almost always men deciding about uteruses. Also, how couldn’t the people in charge in China foresee the population chaos that was going to ensue? The single child policy could have ended at the beginning of the 2000s, I think. People were better off already and most families would have naturally had less children, while the minority who wanted more would have been able to have them.
Oh well.
If you need a larger population, one could always not be a xenophobic jerk and allow immigration. Immigrants boost ever economy–the US has lost about 1 million immigrants thanks to Trump’s idiotic anti-immigration policies and is feeling the effects, with over a million jobs unfilled in food service, healthcare, trucking, and warehousing.
Oh, now that you mention it, the UK also has a shortage of workers, especially truck drivers. Brexit, hehe.
I think China will have to open up to immigration at some point (unless they really start forcing everybody to have 3 kids). But for now they say that they only want “high quality and educated” expats. Meanwhile, for factories it is increasingly difficult to find workers.
They should start by ending Uyghur camps…
Oh man that’s horrifying. I wonder if less people will join the communist party now that they are forced to have children?? That, or the communist party better pay more money for families to afford three kids!
It’s crazy how China flipped so quickly… in just six years!
And are young people banned from studying abroad? Or is it just frowned upon?
I’m not sure if less people will join… For many people in state owned companies, becoming members is a requisite if they want to reach higher levels of responsibility. My husband was encouraged to join as he was the only boss in his company who was not a member, and he wrote his application right before our whole mess started. I doubt he will still consider it, haha.
Paying more money to families or redesigning education would be more useful I think. It’s stupid that in China highly skilled manual workers are despised and earn little. Yesterday the lock in our door broke and we had to call a guy to change it. The total bill was 680 Euro, including the actual work and the new anti-theft lock. C. was astonished at it being so expensive. I told him that, in Spain, locksmiths and plumbers earn a lot of money and are perfectly normal professions. In China, the shifu doing this type of work earns peanuts.
No, I don’t think young people are banned from studying abroad, it’s just starting to be officially not well-regarded. Let’s see how this will end up, because there are definitely a lot of people who don’t want to put their children through the madness that is Chinese public schooling.
The birth rate in the US this year was the lowest rate ever recorded. The pandemic is part of it. Also worries about money, the opportunities for careers for women, and the number of single people. Instead of encouraging women to have more children so we can have more young workers, I suspect we’ll depend on having more immigrants.
I remember when Singapore was trying so hard to get people to get married and have children. They tried with free cruises for singles, “love boats.” People went on the cruises, but they didn’t find their beloved.
In Spain the birth rate is also rock bottom. Who can afford to have children when jobs pay so little that many people stay with their parents until they are almost 30? Also, what do you do with the baby once the 16 weeks of paid maternity leave are finished? (This is even worse in the US). A few decades ago, many families had several children and they could live on just the father’s salary. Now many families can hardly survive until the end of the month with two jobs…
Great post, I also know many people who still think the one child policy is in place. There’s so many pressures on women and their roles in Chinese society, I hope those will ease off in time.
It’s strange that people still think the single child policy is on! Maybe it was not a big news when it happened?
I think “the West” is finally starting to catch on to the fact that the CCP does things in 30-50 year plans. The CCP thinks AHEAD, yo. All of these recent changes can be a clue as to the direction the govt wants to go — cutting out foreign influences, extracurricular activities and gaming, threatening Taiwan, and now this “encouragement” to have more babies …
Thanks as always! Hope you and the family are having a lovely holiday season, xo
Absolutely, the CCP plans ahead and they don’t have to worry about elections and government changes, hahaha. They can do many more things…
I always joke with my colleagues about the moment when China will tell all foreigners “here’s the door, please gtfo” because it does seem this is where we are heading…
Yerp. And good point about elections – Hahahaha.
Ah yes, one of the great structural flaws of China. Good post. Strangely, I think the whole kids question leaks into every part of society you look at – and fixing the problem could destroy the economy or force choices the CCP doesn’t want to make. This is one of those topics I try to avoid talking about with my Chinese friends and co-worker because
1) To look at the problem with any sort of objectivity requires you to say the CCP messed this up really badly (about 15 years late on the policy change) and are now totally screwed. And they don’t even do sensible things like lower taxes or lower Gaokou scores. All talk, no action.
2) it is a touchy subject because of all of the suffering caused by forced abortion, sterilization, sex discrimination against women, etc. So much so that I don’t want to rub salt in the wound of someone who went through the pain and suffering the one child policy caused – and it could be anyone over about 25 years old you know who went through some real pain. Women, men – you don’t know.
3) No one wants 3 children here. No one. All my Chinese friends laugh at the idea. 2 kids is pushing it as is.
Can you imagine having 3 sons and living in Shanghai or Beijing? CEOs only. That’s like a 3+ million Euro bill just to buy the houses they’ll need to get married, let alone raise them.
And to add to something Autumn said, I think a day of open immigration will come fairly soon – after the Covid Boogeyman is over. But only to single, under 30 year old women – probably with marriage requirements after a certain amount of time. I’m sure that will go well. But can’t talk about that problem here either. Or school districts, renters rights, the housing market, the youth lying flat or anything that is also related to raising kids.
Definitely no one that I know wants 3 children, haha. I only know of one excolleague that has 3… and that was because her second pregnancy turned out to be twins! It is simply not affordable, and I wasn’t even considering the dowry apartments haha. BTW, at the end of last year we were having a look at apartments in SIP (in “nice” xiaoqus, but in the Aeon area, not the super plushy expat ones like Bayside or Marina Cove) and they were asking already for one million Euros. So Beijing, Shanghai and Shenzhen have to be much worse…
Yeah, no doubt. I meant for three boys to get married to ANY woman. Can you imagine how this gender imbalance is going play out in the marriage market in 5 or 10 years. Gonna be some issues to deal with.
SIP is getting pricey again. Beijing is nuts. 2+ million euros for about 80 meters of an old/broken apt in Haidian. I sold my cute SIP apt several years ago and bought a place in Beijing. It was a significant downgrade (by Chinese real estate standards) and in a “poor” part of town. I actually like it better there because it’s like China when I first moved here. A little gritty, good food, big markets and a lot more real, regular life. Suzhou, and much of China, is becoming a little too corporate for my liking.
To be honest I think there are far reaching consequences… I’ve already seen a decline in our gender hiring ratios in China… Most recently with one of my company’s prestigious Graduate Programs we had 4 finalists from the Assessment Centre – 3 women and 1 man. Guess who got the offer? And yes – all 3 women were highly qualified.
Thanks for sharing Carissa, it’s a pity but I’m not surprised at all. And nice to see you back!
Interesting development re: 3-child exhortation from CCP.