How I met my boyfriend
I met C. in person for the first time exactly two years ago so I think today is a good day to tell the story of how we met. Here it goes.
We could say we met thanks to China Telecom. Does that sound weird? Let me elaborate. Until that moment, my mobile phone was one of those old Nokias; I had bought it in Beijing in 2007 and was still using it as my Chinese phone. But when I moved to Suzhou, to a new apartment all for myself, I went to a China Telecom store to get an internet connection for my home. They offered me a package consisting of broadband internet, satellite tv and mobile phone monthly plan, plus a free smartphone. I had never had a smartphone before; I had been resisting buying one. But there they were, offering one for free. So I took it.
Remember that I had just moved to Suzhou. I virtually knew no one here so I downloaded an app that was popular at the time (and according to this website, it still is). The app was called Momo (陌陌) and allowed you to find people close to where you were and chat with them. You could search for men, women, or both, and you would get a list with usernames, pictures and distances from you, starting from the ones who were closer. You could also read a small self-description of the person. Of course, most people used it to flirt. During the few weeks I used the app I got messages from hundreds of guys; some were fine, some were stupid, some didn’t believe I was a foreigner, one guy even called me 剩女 (leftover woman) because I was 27 and wasn’t married. But I didn’t really connect with any of them, and I didn’t get to meet any of them in person. I also tried to look for some girl friends but wasn’t lucky, it seems they were not interested in finding new female friends.
It was a Saturday morning and I was facing another weekend of watching movies and going to the mall alone. I refreshed the Momo app and went way down on the list to look for someone interesting. But how to judge if someone is interesting just based on a picture and a username? I passed over several guys showing off their cars, muscles, ipads and money on their pictures until I saw a picture of a guy playing the guitar. I have always liked music, surely I would have more things to talk about with this guy than with one of those Porsche-owners. And I started talking to him. Yes, you guessed right, it was C.
We spent a few days chatting on Momo. What did we talk about? I don’t really remember. Mainly music and our personal stories. He was going through a difficult moment and I told him we could meet and cry together over both our sad stories. A few days later we met for the first time (it was May 8, 2012). He insisted on coming to my apartment block and pick me up in his car; I was hesitant and didn’t want to get in a car with a stranger. As we had decided to go to an ice cream shop close to my home, I told him we could just walk. But he insisted so I ended up getting in his car (I’m glad he didn’t turn out to be a dangerous guy, haha). I remember I didn’t think he was too handsome or attractive; he was too skinny. He had brought his guitar and sang one song I had recommended him through the app (“I will follow you into the dark”, by Death Cab for Cutie); he had studied it and played and sang it for me.
In the following days we became closer; of course we exchanged phone numbers and stopped using that stupid app. He took me to a Japanese restaurant for our first “date” (we were just friends then); we went once to the karaoke, just the two of us, and spent 3 hours there signing nonstop. One day I wasn’t feeling well, I told him on the phone and he insisted on bringing me some medicines (ha! it was his excuse for coming to my apartment!!). So my little cold was what allowed him to finally come to my flat (he really had been trying for a long time!).
So that is basically the story of how we met. After the first time he came to my apartment his visits became more and more frequent… until he moved here. Now I still like to go to the mall and watch movies on the weekends, but I’m not alone anymore. Ah! And in the last 2 years he has gained at least 8 kg and is much more handsome now!
8 Kg!! Where does he carry them? During the trip I asked him how he was so skinny. Now, I know, it is because he eats quite little.
I didn’t know this story! I am glad for you both!
If he is skinny now imagine how he was before!! Way too skinny!!
Glad he didn’t turn out to be a psycho…LOL. I met mine at a busstop…in the dark! Aggghh! And now he is my husband.
In a bus stop? Really? And how did you start talking? That sounds like an interesting story!
Hey Marta! Sorry the response is so late….I think one of my earlier blogs covered that…let me know if they didn’t and I’l….BLOG about it LOL :-)
We had the sake Nokia phone. haha!
Cute story! :)
Sake? I meant same. Good night. Somebody needs sleep. xD
Aww.
Death Cab for Cutie is great.
I’ve still never gotten Momo… and also I should learn how to play the guitar…
C. says that if you are a guy no one talks to you in Momo. You have to take the initiative and start talking to the girls. Once he changed his picture for a girl’s photo and started receiving lots of messages from guys…
maybe the day you marry you should ask someone from China Telecom to come and your baby should have some free minutes or unlimited data? :) crazy and cute love story! :)
PS. I like to call any relationship-weight a love-weight, we love them so we feed them haha :)
Hahaha I should just tell China Telecom that if they want to continue being part of our lives they should improve their internet speed! Internet in China is so annoyingly slow!!
Congrats on being together for two years! (And BTW, that song by Death Cab for Cutie is a personal favorite!)
I think I like all the songs by Death Cab for Cutie! I went to see them live in Shanghai 2 years ago (right before meeting C.), it was in an old theater kind of place and it was pretty cool!
Lovely story!!! You look great together!!! :)
Thanks Linda!
Congrats on the 2 years! What a unique love story :D.
Thanks! I should ask Momo for a sponsorship when we get married :D
do you have a date ?
No, no plans yet.
you both look perfect for each other, a beautiful couple! btw tell him if he doesn’t put a ring on you soon, I will!
Hahaha, thanks, Anthony.
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Good luck girl
I’m same you but my love is very far of me:(
I really miss him
You and your boyfriend look really happy together in your photos!
By the way, I notice that you have a Huawei smartphone and I’m curious as to what you think of it. Is it any good?
Thanks Suigetsu!
I don’t have that phone anymore but I was happy with it. The only “but” is that, as it was for free, it was the most basic model and had a very small memory. Also it was an uncommon model so I couldn’t find spare batteries and the original battery only lasted about 4 hours after a year…
Haha. Nice story. Momo or 缘分, you guys look a matching couple. Maybe I should try the Malaysian Momo, if there is one.
Haha, yes, I should have mentioned the word 缘分!thanks for pointing it out.
Aww , I’m very happy for the two of you ! My boyfriend , who is Chinese , and I uses the app WeChat to talk with one another . I hope to meet him again soon . (:
We also use wechat for texting when we at work! :D
Is your bf in China? Hope you can meet soon!
Hi Marta ! Yes , he lives in China and is currently in Beijing now to get his visa approved . He’ll be studying in California this summer , so we will get to meet . Thank you !
Oh wow that is such a lovely story! technology is really helping to connect people!
It is indeed! At least in my case haha.
What a nice love story! Please, let me know de date of the boda as soon as possible.
I’m not the first in line in our family :D
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“Leftover woman?!” I am outraged on behalf of you and all other women that this is even a phrase. Does this mean leftover as in left over and picked over food? Because I’m thinking this guy was a “left over dude” — left over, and over again (for being a jerk)!
“Leftover woman,” bah, more like smart, secure woman unwilling to settle. :)
Unfortunately leftover woman is a frequently used term in China… if you are in your late 20s and unmarried you are one. Even the government “attacks” them and tell them to lower their standards, don’t be so picky and just go get married.
That seems a like a massive reversal for a country that tried for so long to control its population with a “one child” policy. Is it because they finally figured out they have a lopsided, mostly male population of breeding age and they are worried the boys are going to get restless? Or is there another reason? I am very curious.
I think it has to do with that hahaha. They must be worried the guys who won’t be able to find a wife are going to start a revolution…
In case you want to read more about leftover women: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/12/opinion/global/chinas-leftover-women.html?_r=0
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Damn C.! He and Marta are a great looking couple in her blog about her Chinese husband.
A Momo love story!! I love it. I only get guys that say you are pretty then they show me their penis. I once had a Chinese guy show me his package but it was a black man’s penis and he said it was his. You are lucky that you found your diamond in the tarpit.
Oh no!! I never got any penis pictures, that would have been pretty awkward :D I only used Momo for a month in 2012 though, maybe it became wilder in recent times.
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